8 Tips on How I Cope With Challenges

March 28, 2019
A Vintage Nerd, Vintage Blogger, NYC Blogger, Lifestyle Blogger, Inspirational Blog Post, Coping with Challenges, Inspirational Blogger

Because we are all different we all will cope with challenges differently. Sometimes we can't ignore whats happening to us so at the end of the day its how we deal with difficulties that makes all the difference.

I get asked a lot how I manage with three young kids and a physical disability. I don't have grandparents whisking them away so that I can get a break, their dad works two jobs, and all my friends have their own busy lives. The reality of my day is that they are almost always with me. I don't mind and luckily we enjoy each others company but of course there are days where I feel like I can't cope and I'm about to explode with frustration and exhaustion.

So how to do I cope with the challenges in my life? I'm going to share what has worked for me.

  1. Let go of the small stuff: I used to obsess with cleaning up and having everything perfectly in order when my first was born. I don't anymore. The house isn't a mess but its decently organized and that's okay. 
  2. Ask for help when you need it: I am not a stubborn person but I am prideful and asking for help isn't always an easy thing for me to do. I want to keep my ability to do as much for myself as I can until the day comes when I can't. I also don't want to be a burden but that has changed albeit slowly. I am learning to ask and to accept the help. It's a work in progress.
  3. Take a deep breath: Actually I take a lot of them. When the pain becomes to much, I stop and I take a deep breath. When the kids aren't listening to me, I stop and take a deep breath. When my eyes are getting tired and I can't continue writing, reading, or finishing a movie (three of my favorite things to do), I stop and take a deep breath and try and sleep. Take deep breathes. Breath in and out slowly and think of nothing but that act. It helps. 
  4. Keep things organized: Even if you aren't an organized person, keeping things simple and in some functioning order will help. Purge the clutter, don't over book your calendar, stop trying to juggle everything. Keep your home, your routine, and everything in your environment as simple as you possibly can. This is alway an ongoing process for me. I am in the middle of spring cleaning currently and I still have a ways to go but when stuff is put in its place and things are as clean as can be it makes a lot of things easier. I am also an environment oriented person so an organized home makes a huge difference in how I feel and how I go about my day-to-day activities.
  5. Just say NO: Don't try to please everyone. Try to please yourself first. Sounds selfish? Well, your sanity is key when dealing with daily challenges like health, finances, relationships, etc.
  6. Pace yourself: I have a schedule in my notes section on my phone for every single day. I write every little thing I have to do, have to remember, and hope to do. If I don't get some things done that day I add it to other days. This way I pace myself and try to check off as much as possible and what I didn't do I just try to do another day. 
  7. Go day by day or hour by hour or minute by minute: Some days I am able to think about tomorrow and plan things in my head. Some days so much is coming at me, so much is on my mind, and my body is just completely drained so on those days I go hour by hour. 
  8. Be kind to yourself: Be proud of yourself for the little things you get done. Whether its the laundry or making a phone call or making it to a meeting on time. Be kind to yourself. Also treat yourself to things throughout the day. Your favorite coffee, a 20 minute break to watch a tv show, or a morning at the nail salon. Be kind to yourself.
We all have challenges coming at us in all directions every single day. Some days feel more bearable than others. My challenges challenge me every moment of the day but they are also a big part of who I am. My family, my disability, my lifestyle. I love my life and thats why I make a conscious choice to look at my difficulties as challenges and to face my challenges with as much kindness and patience as I can. How we deal with our challenges makes all the difference. 

Welcoming Spring with Cats Like Us

March 18, 2019
A Vintage Nerd, Vintage Blog, Plus Size Fashion Blogger, Disabled Fashion, Cats Like Us, True Vintage Dresses, Vintage Spring Fashion, 1950's Vintage Dresses

Spring is finally in the air and I decided to welcome in style with  Cats Like Us. Cats Like Us is true a"mom and pop" type of shop that not only caters to those who love retro styled fashion but now offers a heap of true vintage pieces. Establish in 2009 in Western New York, Cats Like Us has been making vintage girls everywhere feel their best for years.

As a busy mom of three that also happens to be plus-size, finding vintage in my size can be a tricky. But I found with Cats Like Us not only do I get to shop for retro items but vintage items that run in my size! I cannot tell you how exciting that is. They carry sizes from XS to XXXXL which is a huge size range that is not often found in stores online or brick and mortar.

I have been dabbling into vintage clothing since I was a pre-teen (thanks grandma) and I can tell you that aside from having a wide range of sizes there is nothing better than having a all the information about the item up front and in detail. Cats Like Us not only does that for each piece they sell but if you happen to feel that you have more questions about an item Cats Like Us will answer them for you. Yes, you can actually communicate with them directly via email and they answer back. Talk about excellent customer service. One thing is for sure, when you are spending your money on an item you want to make sure you have answers to your questions before you make a purchase. Cats Like Us will not only respond to you in a timely manner but they are friendly, courteous, and kind.

This vintage dress happens to be one of the prettiest dress I have worn in a long time. I love vintage inspired clothing and retro fashion as well but vintage has always held my heart. The only reason I don't wear more vintage dresses is because of the challenge of finding the right measurements, style, and colors to fit my specific palette. I guess you can say I am picky but for good reason. When you acquire anything vintage you want to make sure it is something that you will love. And I love my dress from Cats Like Us.

With Cats Like Us not only will you find a great selection of retro inspired fashion but also a well catered selection of true vintage pieces. You will find the prices are friendly to your wallet, courteous customer service, and impeccable packaging. If you are looking for a place to find yourself something special to wear or just looking for a one-of-kind vintage piece, Cats Like Us is the place to be.

A Vintage Nerd, Vintage Blog, Plus Size Fashion Blogger, Disabled Fashion, Cats Like Us, True Vintage Dresses, Vintage Spring Fashion, 1950's Vintage Dresses
A Vintage Nerd, Vintage Blog, Plus Size Fashion Blogger, Disabled Fashion, Cats Like Us, True Vintage Dresses, Vintage Spring Fashion, 1950's Vintage Dresses
A Vintage Nerd, Vintage Blog, Plus Size Fashion Blogger, Disabled Fashion, Cats Like Us, True Vintage Dresses, Vintage Spring Fashion, 1950's Vintage Dresses

Travel Bound to Philly

March 11, 2019
A Vintage Nerd, Vintage Blog, Vintage Blogger, Thrifting in PA, Philly Trip, Planning a Trip to Philly, Vintage Philly, Retrospect Philly

It has been a few years since we were able to go on a proper vacation as a family of five. And I feel really lucky to have been able to take a few days and travel to Philly recently. It may not have been super fancy or long but trust me with children you do not need either. We had a blast exploring this mighty little city and look forward to visiting again.

Taking some time away from your usual everyday schedule is a good thing. A very good thing. But let's be frank, traveling has become a luxury. Its down right expensive. I knew we would have to work real hard to make traveling as a family a real thing.

Before we made this trip I made a little list of the places here in the States and abroad that we would really want to go. Taking into account everyone's passions and hobbies and places we really want to see together as a family. Places like Florida did not make the list because we have been there a dozen times to visit family. Not saying we won't go again but we have been there too much and really want to go to places that each of us hasn't explored together yet.

Then I declared to my husband that even though the bills, debts, and tending to the family are still high priority, traveling has to make it on the list. Not only because time is fleeting and the children are growing leaps and bounds but also because the world is changing rapidly and some places might be more difficult to visit as the years pass by. I also took into account my disability and that it does progress as I age. But that is a subject I will delve into more detail with you all on another post.

Philadelphia, Pennsylvania made it onto the list because the last time we went the kids were super little and there were so many things we didn't do because they were so little. This time around we trooped it on the Peter Pan bus and spent four days in the city of Brotherly Love. I learned a lot on this trip about traveling as a family.

  • It is possible to travel for under a grand with a family of five
  • Sandwich baggies for packaging are a must 
  • Buying a case of water to leave in the hotel room was super helpful
  • Having a room with a fridge and microwave is very useful when traveling with kids
  • Have each child carry a book bag so they can carry their activities and snacks
  • Be open to change in the schedule especially when it comes to bad weather
  • Do have a plan for each day including places to eat 
  • Know all the times things open and close
  • Encourage the kids to try new foods because McDonald's doesn't exist everywhere
  • Make sure you pick 1-2 activities or places to eat for each person in the group so that the trip is about all of us not just one person. For example, the kids got Franklin Institute while daddy got The U.S. Mint
  • Stay away from using your cards; cash and debit cards are a must that way you aren't putting yourself into more debt while you're having fun

On this trip we visited The U.S. Mint, The Franklyn Institute, The Philadelphia Art Museum, and South Street Vintage Shops. Best one by far was Retrospect. Our favorite places to explore foods was in the Reading Terminal Market which was founded in 1892. The kids had a taste of Bassett's Ice Cream and we also ate at McGillin's Olde Ale House which has been opened since 1860. 

History, vintage, and good food made our trip memorable. Doing the things you love with the people you love most is what makes traveling such a special experience. Do you have a list of places you'd love to travel to?

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A Vintage Nerd, Vintage Blog, Vintage Blogger, Thrifting in PA, Philly Trip, Planning a Trip to Philly, Vintage Philly, Retrospect Philly
A Vintage Nerd, Vintage Blog, Vintage Blogger, Thrifting in PA, Philly Trip, Planning a Trip to Philly, Vintage Philly, Retrospect Philly
A Vintage Nerd, Vintage Blog, Vintage Blogger, Thrifting in PA, Philly Trip, Planning a Trip to Philly, Vintage Philly, Retrospect Philly
A Vintage Nerd, Vintage Blog, Vintage Blogger, Thrifting in PA, Philly Trip, Planning a Trip to Philly, Vintage Philly, Retrospect Philly

 
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